Our attachment relationships pack our suitcases. Secure attachment relationships give us a solid sense of our worthiness for connection, a clear idea of what secure relating looks and feels like, and an alliance with our bodies and emotions. Insecure attachment experiences leave our relational backpack without all the things we need to feel secure in ourselves and our adult relationships. If you don’t have a suitcase full of all the goodies you need to feel securely attached, I wrote you a book

The gift of secure attachment with us is by far one of the most important protective factors we have the power to create in our children’s lives. My mom wasn’t able to create it with me when I was little, but she worked her butt off as soon as she could and has been creating it ever since. Comment the word Journal to get a preorder link to the mother daughter journal I created inspired by my relationship with my mom, my clinical experience, and my obsession with attachment science. Love on. | At

So much of a secure attachment dynamic is built upon responsiveness. The rhythm of joining each other in moments of joy and moments of pain. Showing up for each other and allowing the relationship to be a place where we are both held and soothed. This can be utterly confusing and even uncomfortable if we did not grow up with secure family relationships and had to learn other coping patterns to adapt to our family’s disconnection. Which is the entire reason I wrote Securely Attached, and why I wr